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Welcome to the website of the Interchurch Families International Network.

(Feature article can be found below.)
People come to this site to learn more about marriages across denominational lines, be it because they live, or have a family member or friend in, such a marriage; or to know what the churches are learning and saying about such marriages. More and more, people are coming here to discover the riches and joy to be found in sharing in each other's church traditions, and worshipping as much as possible together in each other's churches.

We who live such marriages are today gathering in groups and Associations in various countries. We lend support to each other, share information, and discuss how to live the often painful and confusing situations arising out of the divisions in the churches.  We seek  to grow in Christian unity, and become for our churches an ever-greater gift of healing of the scandal of disunity.

This site provides rich resources for this journey. Of these, the Journal, produced over a period of more than 10 years, and reflecting the experiences of interchurch families and the theology which undergirds their journey, must be counted among the most valuable.

The Interchurch Families International Discussion Group enables us to share joys and sorrows, to discuss ways of dealing with immediate issues which arise as a consequence of living our marital unity within churches which are divided.  Feel free to join.

Enjoy and, if you have comments or questions, please contact me, Ray Temmerman, at This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it..


This letter was presented at the 11th International Conference of Interchurch Families held in Newcastle, NSW, Australia, 2005.

Letter from Archbishop Roger Herft

1 August, 2005 

I have mixed feelings as I send you greetings from the West – a part of it is because I would have dearly loved to be there in person to express my good wishes and prayers for your Conference. 

Andrew Lloyd Webber, in the song “Loves Changes Everything” from the musical “Aspects of Love”, reminds us of the transforming nature of love:

Love, love changes everything: hands and faces, earth and sky. 
Love, love changes everything: how you live and how you die. 
Love can make the summer fly, or a night seem like a lifetime.
Yes, love, love changes everything, now I tremble at your name.
Nothing in the world will ever be the same.

Love, love changes everything: days are longer, words mean more.
Love, love changes everything: pain is deeper than before.
Love will turn your world around, and that world will last forever.
Yes, love, love changes everything, brings you glory, brings you shame.
Nothing in the world will ever be the same.

Off into the world we go, planning futures, shaping years.
Love bursts in and suddenly all our wisdom disappears.
Love makes fools of everyone: all the rules we make are broken.
Yes, love, love changes everything: live or perish, in its flame.
Love will never ever let you be the same.
Love will never ever let you be the same.’

A marriage between persons of different religious confessions creates an irksome paradigm for the faith institutions. We are challenged to examine our exclusive claims and the ways in which our faith confessions create painful barriers to hospitality. The Sacrament of marriage is the most intimate relationship shared in human communion. It is a pointer to the profound life we are called to with God in Christ.

May the Conference continue to provide the “shock treatment” required for the Church to heed Christ’s command “to be one”.


The Most Reverend Roger Herft
Archbishop of Perth WA Australia

This letter was presented at the 11th International Conference of Interchurch Families held in Newcastle, NSW, Australia, 2005.