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Welcome to the website of the Interchurch Families International Network.

(Feature article can be found below.)
People come to this site to learn more about marriages across denominational lines, be it because they live, or have a family member or friend in, such a marriage; or to know what the churches are learning and saying about such marriages. More and more, people are coming here to discover the riches and joy to be found in sharing in each other's church traditions, and worshipping as much as possible together in each other's churches.

We who live such marriages are today gathering in groups and Associations in various countries. We lend support to each other, share information, and discuss how to live the often painful and confusing situations arising out of the divisions in the churches.  We seek  to grow in Christian unity, and become for our churches an ever-greater gift of healing of the scandal of disunity.

This site provides rich resources for this journey. Of these, the Journal, produced over a period of more than 10 years, and reflecting the experiences of interchurch families and the theology which undergirds their journey, must be counted among the most valuable.

The Interchurch Families International Discussion Group enables us to share joys and sorrows, to discuss ways of dealing with immediate issues which arise as a consequence of living our marital unity within churches which are divided.  Feel free to join.

Enjoy and, if you have comments or questions, please contact me, Ray Temmerman, at This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it..


A family of love

Canon Alyson Barnett-Cowan, Director of Faith, Worship and Ministry of the Anglican Church of Canada, expressed her gratitude for being present at the conference.

I was moved to hear your stories. I heard not so much pain – although that’s a part of them – as perseverance and creativity and hope. I was asked why an ecumenical staff person would choose to come to be with this particular group. I replied: ‘Because you’re the ecumenical movement’. I got the response: ‘But we didn’t choose to be!’

No, when you chose each other you weren’t choosing to take on the overwhelming task of healing the body of Christ, wounded over countless generations. Yet any marriage brings together separated families, and yours have just been really big separated families. But you did more than choose each other. You have chosen, day by day, to honour each other, to be faithful to your tradition and to that of your partner. You have chosen to create a new reality, a family of love that demonstrates to the churches not only the scandal of our divisions, but the absurdity of them. You have chosen to let your love move mountains – to find ways through, beside, under, over and between the barriers thrown up by centuries of fear and mistrust and mutual condemnation. So God bless you, and your children, and your children’s children who may, God willing, inherit the one church you have helped to create.